Adventures of a mom of three- masterpiece

Eldest Son. Logan

You know how people always think that their child is "gifted"? They are always bragging how "advanced" they are. I don't actually mind it, what kind of parent would you be if you were to not think the world of your child. There are studies out there, that state that no matter what, every child develops at the same pace. Studies, I really could not care less about what any study has ever told me. All I know, is what i "study" myself. You could say that i have a really bad case of mama bear syndrome. I don't like when people offer me "solutions" unless I ask for them and I think my child is more advanced than anyone I've seen. (unless of course it is any of my friends children in which case they are gifted to me as well) I'm prejudice that way. I supposed that makes me come off as a beast, I couldn't care less, I was raised to not care what other people think. You can say what you want about that, how it is impossible, or that would make me unable to have a real connection with someone. That's what the studies state right? eh think what you want, I don't care. See what I did there?

I look at raising these kids as my masterpiece, nothing I will ever create in my life will ever come close to these miracles. When Logan was born, there was a lot I didn't know, but it did come to me. Little by little in my own time I developed as a person, and as a mother. He was such a fragile little man, but as he grew there was a mature nature about him. When he was one he said "book" clear as day. He would listen and repeat earlier than that. All his syllables were separate, never slurring or mumbled. He was polite, smart and beautiful. When it comes to these things, he is advanced. He could count to ten by the time he was 18 months, he could do the whole abc's and tell you his favorite color by the time he was a little older than 2. All things he learned from "moose and zee" he says. (moose and zee are my heroes by the way). Then the mother bear hits, don't let him near the children who still act like they are 2, but he is two, why not? All these thoughts are going through my head, when in reality, you can't take that away from him. 

I read in a book a few months back about a father who only read his newborn out of a history book, put all the letters in a mobile above his bed. Everything was education to this man. He enrolled his 10 year old boy at harvard, he graduated by the time he was 16 I believe. He was a math wiz, could add numbers in his head , that the rest of us could barely do on paper. His job when he graduated was a low salary job where he used a calculator even though he didn't have to. He was homeless, and refused to use anything he had learn in school to his advantage. Then it hit me, Logan could be smart, he could be advanced, but he is still normal, still needs to be a normal child. Ok make it his choice always no matter what. If you think I think my child will be a homeless man if I ever push him to do his best, you don't know me very well and stop reading my blog!! 

Loganism number one "its ok peighton, I'm here, Ive got you" 

That's all i care about. 

When you are a parent you will get all sorts of "advice" listen and if it gets to be too much let people know. Because you are the one who is in control, its your masterpiece. No one knows what they are doing, no one. I look at them and know I did the right thing when I had them. Every one. Its hard, but they will be exactly how I allow them to be. So I teach what I can, while I can, and hope they can take that, mix in some of their own ideas, and become the best versions of themselves.

What more could you ask for?

Adventures of a mom of three

People always said that I would be good as a writer. Although I don't remember a time when i had anything that i would actually feel inclined to write about. Until this happened. 24 years old with 3 children under the age of four. ( to be completely corny with a  "you think you know but have no idea" moment). When I found out I was pregnant with my first I was 20. Nope, no teenage pregnancy here, I waited....a year. Logan was born as a tiny bird- like creature with blond hair and jaundice. His other health problems, we will get to soon. He would grow ( I use the word grow loosely in his case) to be this amazing little boy with a whole lot to say. These sayings will be referred to as "loganisms" -definition- the random things that come out of Logan's mouth that make me laugh, cry, scream, and sometimes want to break something over my head. IE "is I can do that and I WILL do that". yea you let me know if you can figure that one out. Who's first word was "book" and would rather have a book than a toy any day. An "old soul" as he has been called, who loves his brother and sister with everything he has.

Keegan came two years later...oops was not really the word I would use. Two years apart is not all that bad right? NOPE not unless you break your pelvis giving birth and can't walk for 6 months, then its a nightmare you can't wake up from. When Logan was told about the impending arrival of a brother or sister he wanted to know if  "Buzz could come" on this journey. Something I'm sure Buzz now regrets, as he now has daily scuba adventures in the toilet courtesy of Keegan. My little fire. Red hair and pudgy cheeks. Happy soul who plays like the kid in toy story. No really, I never played like that kid and not many people do. He does.
Then when Keegan was eight months old. BOOM here comes the real oops, I don't know how it happened. My pelvis was broken and we were careful...er Now things got kicked into over drive. Enter Peighton.

Peighton was born via c section (pelvis) a beautiful little girl with brown hair. Too little to have very many stories yet, but they will be just as exciting I'm sure.
Let me break it down for you.  Throughout the night my husband and I have been tag teaming the feedings. I completely recommend this to any couple , sorry for those who believe a child should ONLY have breast milk, but I barely have time to eat during the day to be building up enough milk for any of them to survive on. This is not selfish, its real. I do what I can , and what I can't, Scott steps in.

My mornings consist of waking up getting everyone out of diapers which always have a "nugget"-definition- a small piece of a bowel moment that smells worse than a full bowel moment, sent from the child as a reminder of whats to come later in the day. Hard to clean and sometime may even roll out of the diaper for even more enjoyment.
Getting the cloths on, I can't really complain about this, they actually are OK with this part of the day.
Breakfast, OK so those health problems with Logan, now they enter. I don't know what happened to this child that made him hate eating. He is 3 and is less than 30 pound. My EX Dr that it could be " poor diet choices". How about you tell me! how can my two children eat the same thing all day long and he be less than 30 pounds, and the other, who is two years younger, be OVER 30 pounds. So rule number one people. Change Dr's and change again, until you find someone who can actually help you. Because to pack up 3 children under 4 into the car to someone who had no idea what to do is one more waste of time you don't need.
The adventures continue throughout the day, crying fits and hungry newborns fill me head with noise and wonderment.

Sometimes I think back and wonder, What if I had thought it through?. What is Scott and I had planned it all out the kids, figured out how many we wanted, or how we wanted to raise them. Discipline actions, how much TV we would allow, how much one movie can be watch, or even if we wanted a pacifier or security blanket.
Here's what it would have looked like...my plan.
TV. Limit the TV to an hour a day. Only children shows, and volume low and soothing.
Pacifier or blanket. I would prefer no pacifier hard to get them off, i don't mind the blanket. But it WILL stay clean and there will be only one, they will just have to deal while I wash it.
Discipline. No spanking. speak to them like adults, time out is a waste of time, and no bargaining!
Movies Get watched ONCE a day.

OK sounds good, Lets begin
My TV is on all day, try telling a child who is SCREAMING that he can not watch sponge bob more than twice a day and he can't watch Diego and learn Spanish. That's right Sponge bob, wheres the education?? where the low volume??
Toy story 1, 2 and 3 play continuously all day, there is no stopping it, they have actually learned how to work the tv and dvd player themselves.
You may say you don't want that pacifier, but when your child is screaming at 3 am and there is nothing you can do to make them feel better. you're going to love that pacifier. This is not the same for every child. Keegan choked on the pacifier.
The blanket. Loganism "na night" i have 2, and they are both dirty. When you take that away and his blue eyes glass over and he is crying so hard he is choking. You'll learn to steal it when they are sleeping. And you will love it just as much as him.
All your discipline ideas WILL go out the window..trust me..they will.
But its OK. Because everyday is different. I'm ok with the way everything went down, im happy with how we handle everyday. These children are happy and well behaved. We will get Logan's health under control, but its and adventure everyday. That's why I started this blog, because what could be more exciting than 3 kids under 4? Look for updates and find out my friends!